Julie Lyles Carr: The Tide of Codependency

Thursday, November 6, 2008

The Tide of Codependency

I believe it's called a co-dependent relationship.


And I know it's not healthy.



But I knew what I was getting into, I knew that it was a relationship that was bound to be filled with setbacks and mess and obsession.



And now, I just don't see any way out.



I thought I could manage it at first. I just figured that I would be the one in control. I figured I could determine a way to keep the issues contained, that I could be the one to remove the stains of life from a delicate being.



But things have just spiraled. The demands have become greater. And I'm coming to the realization that I can never personally fix all the blemishes, I can never remove all the smudges that this alliance claims are my responsibility to deal with. I know I'm responsible for some of the mess, but so many people have conspired against the ideals I brought to this alliance. It's like a crowd has decided to undo all the effort that has gone into this, like they are set on unraveling and unfolding the layers and details of a fragile liason.



And then, of course, is the jealousy inherent in the relationship itself. If I decide to take a day for myself, to push aside the confines and insistency of this codependency, I return from my sojourn to find things worse off than when I left, the piles of messy accusations greeting me as I walk in the door.



And maybe this is too much information, but this codependent relationship is even beginning to push itself into the bedroom...





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Help! I've fallen under my laundry pile and I can't get up!



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Imagine if I had ignored the laundry for three straight days instead of two...

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And you thought I was going to air my dirty laundry...



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